Is been interesting how my friend in my age group have relationship at this age in Generation Y. That they have got their girlfriend/ boyfriend but simply but don’t last long. I have always told them that, ‘Have you learned anything from the previous relationship? Where the errors that cause the whole relationship went down? Have you ever wondered why?’ Some said no idea or giving excuse so that they won’t think is not my fault. Many of them asking, Why la Jason, Why? And I just got to investigate. Not long, by asking a critical question that give critical answer could simply tell me where the relationships really gone wrong. I am not arrogant nor showing off that I am Mr Know-It-All but just share my knowledge and my opinion.
Where You Got Her/Him:
Getting to know your partner is very important. Because it show how much you know the person character and personality. Taking example, you know your partner from club. It showed that it is a socialize person or outdoor person. It can be fun but remember my advised is to take your own sweet time to know the person better. It you know from school or poly, I am worried that most teenage can’t really tell, Am I In Love or I just had a crush? Many think crush lead to love. Define crush? Because crush can just be envy or admire. Because my dear child, crush does not mean it lead to love. Most mistakes ever, crush is equal to love. Two different words (Crush & Love) mean two different definitions. At teen hood, you got long donkey year ahead so always take thing slow to know the person well. I know it can be challenging as you wanna know your partner more and more. As it get excited and more excited as the feeling and emotional went chaos. Be it surprise and just take your own sweet time as you got all the time in your world to explore each other character.
Keep The Fire Going:
If one party is introvert and another is extrovert, perfect match to keep the fire going in relationship as far as possible. Extrovert is like a fire and introvert can be like coal where it just take some time to keep fire burn the coal and from there it give heat for some time. Warm lighting and cool yet hot. Is always good to keep the fire going. One sign that relationship might flop is, not active in communication. Such as not in talking term, keeping from each other in certain topic or even not going on the normal date anymore and simply that is dangerous. Always trade each other personal opinion. Or change each other lifestyle. Once awhile go club together with your group of friend such as Zouk Out. Is good to give a little spice in relationship. But just don’t give too much or else it won’t be good.
In Conclusion
Is best to have a good, solid, friendship, foundation. As a reminder, take your own sweet time to know your partner. Learn and best till the stage of true colour of each person character. Therefore could you accept it? Also be very open to your partner. Girls simply love humour but yet cute guy whereas boy simply love girls who are open-minded. Don’t be shy and share as many as you can but make sure you are comfortable the topic you guy talk about. Don’t always have doubt on making assumption in your mind. Again, talk things out. Nor direct or beating around the bush. Because when you guy simply know each other opinion due to the person character, you have a good foundation. Do not set rule because it sound like a parent. Always learn to talk thing out. If you wanna have a perfect love but can’t accept each of partner imperfectness, than don’t bother to dream about a perfect, lovely true relationship…
2 comments:
Whoa Uncle Jason ah know very well about love ah.
That's good but when it comes into practice can be quite challenging compare to if in theory wise.
Nevertheless, there are people who are hurt in love but there's a second chance however sometimes the second chance is taken for granted.
But sometimes i do wonder also, if once bitten twice shy, what happens if the person still wanna go on and still believes the other party will change?
Well if they wanna change, I guess the first thing to show that is sincere. The another party simply got to be sincere. And it is so difficult to know if that is a true sincere. Is like you took a vase and you broke it. But after glue back the piece apart and you do it again. It will be more difficult to put the piece back. So same applied to relationship.
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