Actually I dont mind coming back.
Divine With Zain & Yvonna
Actually I dont mind coming back.
I'm Back Baby
Finally I'm back and I have seen the last post is about 8 months ago. Gosh, that is super long and I know many thought my blog dead. Sigh... This is the second time it blackout (in term of not active/dead) but I try to keep it active yea...
Looking at my album I have many grandfather stories to tell you and let me look back, hmmmm
The stages that I gonna post in the future would be:
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The stages that I gonna post in the future would be:
- Workaholic In The Banking Industrial
- Divine During Christmas
- Alcoholic With Buddies
- Mall & Beach Pub (Uniqlo & Coaster)
- Makanan In JB
- Zain Kota Tinngi Homestay
- Boxing Day
- Johnathan Birthday
- Christmas Feast At Scan Hub
- Pink Dancefloor
- A Day In KL
- Punggol Jetty & Makanan
- Feast At JB
- Chinese New Year At Scan Hub
- A Visit At The Zoo
- Nanda Facial Therapy
- Hotel Dine
- Farah, Faz & Nanda Birthday
Soon I gonna post once in every 3 to 4 days. See yea all...
To Love At All
“To love at all is to be vulnerable. Love anything, and your heart will certainly be wrung and possibly be broken. If you want to make sure of keeping it intact, you must give your heart to no one, not even to an animal. Wrap it carefully round with hobbies and little luxuries; avoid all entanglements; lock it up safe in the casket or coffin of your selfishness. But in that casket — safe, dark, motionless, airless — it will change. It will not be broken; it will become unbreakable, impenetrable, irredeemable. The alternative to tragedy, or at least to the risk of tragedy, is damnation. The only place outside of Heaven where you can be perfectly safe from all the dangers and perturbations of love is Hell.”
Do Open Relationship Work?
An open relationship needs to be mutual, meaning each person has the ability to engage in mental and/or physical affairs with another person. You can’t declare an open relationship without discussing it with your partner — that is called cheating. There is no black and white when it comes to this arrangement. There are many things that need to be discussed before it can actually begin.
Are there certain nights of the week reserved for your sidepiece? Are weekends off limits? Is it kiss and tell or don’t ask don’t tell? How much time can you spend with the other people? How many other partners can you have at once? As you can see, this agreement brings along a lot of uncertainty.
The pitfall of this type of arrangement is the jealousy factor. It does not matter that both people are allowed to see other people; jealousy sometimes can be unavoidable. It’s natural to become jealous of another person who has your partner’s attention.
Long distance couples are more prone to have this discussion than other types of couples. The distance between two people can and most often does create sexual frustration. To solve this problem, these people may look to other options, which include hooking up with other people, in hopes of preventing a breakup.
So many romances end because one partner cheats, so wouldn’t an open relationship be a smart idea? Of course there will always be those who are 100% monogamous and have no issue staying faithful, but for the rest of the people out there, what’s left for them?
Of course, the argument is if you don’t want to be in a relationship, then don’t be in one. Nothing is black and white and neither is this discussion. Sometimes you will have someone you love and want to be with, but then there are those instances where you need a little variety. If you are upfront and honest with your partner, then are you really doing anything wrong? And, honestly, who cares about anyone’s opinions outside of yours and your partner’s?
Your relationship should be gone about in a manner that satisfies you and if this is what it takes to have a great relationship, then more power to you. When you behave in a way that contradicts tradition, people will always have something to say. It’s important to ignore petty judgments because you don’t need others’ opinions to make you happy.
Everyone is different and therefore has different wants that need to be fulfilled. Through connecting with your sexuality, you discover a sense of self. From there, your awareness can grow. Enlightenment comes through practicing self-awareness. Intimate relationships, regardless if they are monogamous or not, are fueled by a desire to feel complete, alive and sexual.
Be considerate of your partners and always use protection. As we all know, the more partners you have, the higher your risk for contracting an STD is. Safe sex is a requirement, not an option in this situation. It is disrespectful to your partners not to have safe sex and it’s risky for your own health. Condoms reduce the spread of STDs, but only if they are used correctly. Remember these aren’t the only items needed for safe sex.
10 Biggest Mistakes Made In Relationships
#10 Clinging Too Much
Everyone needs their own personal space. If you love your partner you should trust them enough to give them their space and not try to invade every second of their life. This isn't the case when you're married. Marriage is a blessing and after marriage you and your partner share the same life together. But when you're in a relationship, you can't suddenly take over their life unless it's a mutual decision. Don't make them feel suffocated and don't make them regret the decision of being with you.
#9 Being Jealous Of Each Other
Relationships should never have the element of jealousy involved. You love your partner, you are not supposed to be jealous if they have a better job than you or a better social circle than you. You are supposed to be their strength and make them bigger in life rather than complain about how you can't compete with them. It's not a competition. Your partner will do everything in their power to make you a stronger person and you should do the same.
#8 Listening To Others More Than Your Partner
Bringing a third person in the middle of your relationship won't always end well. If you are facing a problem with your partner and you start asking the world for help it will obviously create a lot of trust issues between you and your partner. Couples Therapy is different, they are trained professionals and their only job is to make things work between you two. But when it comes to friends, everyone will give you their own opinion and it might make your mind think in too many directions which leads to over-thinking. And we all know where over-thinking takes us.
#7 Leaving Arguments Unsolved
We've seen this happen a lot around us and it has happened to us as well. When an argument is left unsolved in the middle, it won't go away. It will keep growing and come out in the form of a huge fight which will eventually lead to break up. Whenever any problem arises, make sure you solve it then and there. If you forgive your partner's mistakes, forget their mistakes and never bring them up in future arguments, it will only mean you never forgave them in the first place.
#6 Taking It Too Easy
Some couples start off amazing and slowly lose the spark they had. It could be because they don't find each other as interesting as they did before, it could be because of someone else being in their mind, it could be because of a lot of reasons but it shouldn't happen in the first place. Keep the romance alive and be the same partner you were when you first fell in love with them. Keep the romance going and make the memories stronger.
#5 A Lot Of Giving And No Getting
I've seen a lot of relationships in which one of the two do as much as they can to make their partner happy while the partner forgets everything they did for them in the middle of every argument and every rocky phase. Relationships are all about give and take. If you don't cherish your partner for all the effort and time they spend on you, they won't be around for too long because someone else will make them feel appreciated. Start giving back, love them the way they love you or even more. Cherish them before it's too late.
#4 Not Letting Go Of The Past
Everyone has a past. It is wise to clear everything up even before getting into a relationship with someone to leave no room for doubts and assumptions later. Don't cling to your partner's past either, the past shouldn't matter to you. You love someone for who they are not the baggage they carry. If you start snooping on them, it will only make you see things you shouldn't have seen in the first place and it will break your partner's trust because it was the past. Live in the present and work for an amazing future.
#3 Assumptions
The word "assumption" actually makes me cringe. It is one of the scariest things to have in a relationship and it leads to nothing but a bad ending to a perfect story. Once you start assuming, you will make a habit of it and you will soon create an entire mountain of assumptions on your partner's shoulders. Stop assuming and start asking if there's anything you have doubts about. Relationships are built on trust, not assumptions. Just because they've made mistakes in the past doesn't mean you just assume they'll do it in the future.
#2 Faking Interests
When you love someone, you love them for who they are. You love each and every little thing they do because that's who they are. You try making them a better person by making their bad habits go away. But it doesn't mean you start pretending to like what they do just to make them smile. Faking your interests in them will only make matters worse for later. Tell them exactly how you feel about them, their social life, their friends, their family, because you don't fake in love if you mean it.
#1 Thinking Of Marriage As The Answer To Everything
Some couples tend to think marriage will end the issues they have brewing up between them. Marriage is one of the biggest moves in life and it changes lives. But it is not wise to take the step before knowing if it will last or not. Some couples tend to fight a lot, on a daily basis, and they think once they're married all of their problems will suddenly vanish. That's not the case, marry ONLY when you're sure of it and not just to save a dying relationship.
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Everyone needs their own personal space. If you love your partner you should trust them enough to give them their space and not try to invade every second of their life. This isn't the case when you're married. Marriage is a blessing and after marriage you and your partner share the same life together. But when you're in a relationship, you can't suddenly take over their life unless it's a mutual decision. Don't make them feel suffocated and don't make them regret the decision of being with you.
#9 Being Jealous Of Each Other
Relationships should never have the element of jealousy involved. You love your partner, you are not supposed to be jealous if they have a better job than you or a better social circle than you. You are supposed to be their strength and make them bigger in life rather than complain about how you can't compete with them. It's not a competition. Your partner will do everything in their power to make you a stronger person and you should do the same.
#8 Listening To Others More Than Your Partner
Bringing a third person in the middle of your relationship won't always end well. If you are facing a problem with your partner and you start asking the world for help it will obviously create a lot of trust issues between you and your partner. Couples Therapy is different, they are trained professionals and their only job is to make things work between you two. But when it comes to friends, everyone will give you their own opinion and it might make your mind think in too many directions which leads to over-thinking. And we all know where over-thinking takes us.
#7 Leaving Arguments Unsolved
We've seen this happen a lot around us and it has happened to us as well. When an argument is left unsolved in the middle, it won't go away. It will keep growing and come out in the form of a huge fight which will eventually lead to break up. Whenever any problem arises, make sure you solve it then and there. If you forgive your partner's mistakes, forget their mistakes and never bring them up in future arguments, it will only mean you never forgave them in the first place.
#6 Taking It Too Easy
Some couples start off amazing and slowly lose the spark they had. It could be because they don't find each other as interesting as they did before, it could be because of someone else being in their mind, it could be because of a lot of reasons but it shouldn't happen in the first place. Keep the romance alive and be the same partner you were when you first fell in love with them. Keep the romance going and make the memories stronger.
#5 A Lot Of Giving And No Getting
I've seen a lot of relationships in which one of the two do as much as they can to make their partner happy while the partner forgets everything they did for them in the middle of every argument and every rocky phase. Relationships are all about give and take. If you don't cherish your partner for all the effort and time they spend on you, they won't be around for too long because someone else will make them feel appreciated. Start giving back, love them the way they love you or even more. Cherish them before it's too late.
#4 Not Letting Go Of The Past
Everyone has a past. It is wise to clear everything up even before getting into a relationship with someone to leave no room for doubts and assumptions later. Don't cling to your partner's past either, the past shouldn't matter to you. You love someone for who they are not the baggage they carry. If you start snooping on them, it will only make you see things you shouldn't have seen in the first place and it will break your partner's trust because it was the past. Live in the present and work for an amazing future.
#3 Assumptions
The word "assumption" actually makes me cringe. It is one of the scariest things to have in a relationship and it leads to nothing but a bad ending to a perfect story. Once you start assuming, you will make a habit of it and you will soon create an entire mountain of assumptions on your partner's shoulders. Stop assuming and start asking if there's anything you have doubts about. Relationships are built on trust, not assumptions. Just because they've made mistakes in the past doesn't mean you just assume they'll do it in the future.
#2 Faking Interests
When you love someone, you love them for who they are. You love each and every little thing they do because that's who they are. You try making them a better person by making their bad habits go away. But it doesn't mean you start pretending to like what they do just to make them smile. Faking your interests in them will only make matters worse for later. Tell them exactly how you feel about them, their social life, their friends, their family, because you don't fake in love if you mean it.
#1 Thinking Of Marriage As The Answer To Everything
Some couples tend to think marriage will end the issues they have brewing up between them. Marriage is one of the biggest moves in life and it changes lives. But it is not wise to take the step before knowing if it will last or not. Some couples tend to fight a lot, on a daily basis, and they think once they're married all of their problems will suddenly vanish. That's not the case, marry ONLY when you're sure of it and not just to save a dying relationship.
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