10 Steps To A Healtier Relationship

#10 Expectations
We all have a keen habit of expecting a lot from our partners, which is wrong. We should expect as much as they can give us. Keeping a firm grasp on expectations and keeping them close to reality is what makes a relationship strong and makes your partner more comfortable with you and happier to be with you because you don't burden them with stuff he/she has no control over.

#9 Cuddle More
It's one of the best features of a relationship. Cuddle your partner every chance you get. We are going to write an entirely separate article on cuddling because it has a lot of benefits. Be more intimate with each other, cuddle them, hug them, kiss them, be as romantic as you can with them. True love knows no bounds.

#8 Heart To Heart
Every couple goes through arguments and fights. We can't always agree on everything, we are human. It is wise to have a heart to heart after every bad patch you two go through. Just sit somewhere quiet and talk about what happened. Don't go to your friends for help and don't let them go to their's. You are supposed to live a life together you should be able to fix problems using each other not everyone else in the world. Having a heart to heart conversation with your lover will guarantee a long-lasting and loving relationship.

#7 Be There In The Dark Times
Love isn't just about being there for each other when you're both happy, it's about being each other's support and strength when everything isn't going well. If your partner is going through a dark phase, a rough patch, a family situation or anything that can traumatize them, be as supportive as you can. Do whatever you can to make them happy. Forget your issues, forget your arguments, forget that one time they made you sad and just be there for them. They will love you forever and respect you more if you forget yourself and help them come out of that dark phase smiling.

#6 Respect
Respect is the second most important part of a relationship after trust. There should be a great deal of respect between you two for each other. You should be supportive. You should respect the way they live, the friends they have, the decisions they make, as long as you're sure they're not doing anything wrong you should respect everything about them. No two people can be the same, don't try to be the same, it's fun when you're different. You get to learn more and more about each other everyday. Respect!

#5 Complete Trust Is Key
The most vital part of every relationship is the element of Trust. It can make or break any relationship within seconds. Trust is a very valuable jewel, once lost can never be brought back in the same way again. You love your partner because you trust them with all your life. They should do the same for you. Never tell someone you trust them if you don't. There is no better feeling in this world than to know that the person you love trusts you more than anything and they can do anything for you. Keep the trust alive.

#4 Be Each Other's Strength
When you love someone, you love them for who they are. You love their position in life and you do whatever you can to make their position stronger and better. Once you let the element of jealousy come in between you and your partner, you won't be able to make anyone grow into a better person. If they have a better job than you, be happy about it rather than being competitive. Listen to them, understand their problems, be open with them. Achieve your dreams in life with their help and make them achieve their goals.

#3 More Alone Time
All couples need sufficient alone-time for each other to get to know each other better. It may be fun hanging out with your friends along with your partner but it should be even more fun for you hanging out with your partner alone. Give them the time they deserve. Spend entire days doing what both of you love to do. It is also important not to talk about others during your alone-time, talk about each other.

#2 What Past?
We often let our past baggage take the best of our love. When you're with someone who keeps you very happy, forget the past. Don't ask them about their past if you trust them and don't talk about yours either. Once one of you starts digging in the past, a whole pandora's box will open up and you two will not be at peace until one of you gives up. Forget the past, live in the present and work on the future.

#1 Don't Fight Back During Arguments
It's one of the most destructive things to do during an argument - fighting back with all your power. During arguments, one of you needs to be "The calm one" and make the argument stop by either apologizing if it's your fault or by being funny or romantic but it is very wise to never fight back. Two angry people can never come to peace with each other without saying a lot of stuff they would later regret. If your partner is angry, do whatever you can to calm them down and control your anger, it's not going to be easy but it'll make them love you more.

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White Peddle

Many hundreds of years ago in a small Italian town, a merchant had the misfortune of owing a large sum of money to the moneylender. The moneylender, who was old and ugly, fancied the merchant’s beautiful daughter so he proposed a bargain. He said he would forgo the merchant’s debt if he could marry the daughter. Both the merchant and his daughter were horrified by the proposal.

The moneylender told them that he would put a black pebble and a white pebble into an empty bag. The girl would then have to pick one pebble from the bag.If she picked the black pebble, she would become the moneylender’s wife and her father’s debt would be forgiven. If she picked the white pebble she need not marry him and her father’s debt would still be forgiven. But if she refused to pick a pebble, her father would be thrown into jail.

They were standing on a pebble strewn path in the merchant’s garden. As they talked, the moneylender bent over to pick up two pebbles. As he picked them up, the sharp-eyed girl noticed that he had picked up two black pebbles and put them into the bag. He then asked the girl to pick her pebble from the bag.

What would you have done if you were the girl? If you had to advise her, what would you have told her? Careful analysis would produce three possibilities:

1. The girl should refuse to take a pebble.

2. The girl should show that there were two black pebbles in the bag and expose the moneylender as a cheat.

3. The girl should pick a black pebble and sacrifice herself in order to save her father from his debt and imprisonment.

The above story is used with the hope that it will make us appreciate the difference between lateral and logical thinking.

The girl put her hand into the moneybag and drew out a pebble. Without looking at it, she fumbled and let it fall onto the pebble-strewn path where it immediately became lost among all the other pebbles.

“Oh, how clumsy of me,” she said. “But never mind, if you look into the bag for the one that is left, you will be able to tell which pebble I picked.” Since the remaining pebble is black, it must be assumed that she had picked the white one. And since the moneylender dared not admit his dishonesty, the girl changed what seemed an impossible situation into an advantageous one.

MORAL OF THE STORY: Most complex problems do have a solution, sometimes we have to think about them in a different way.

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24 Things Single People Are Tired Of Hearing

1. “How are you still single? You’re so great.”

2. “It’ll happen when you least expect it.”

3. “Don’t you ever get lonely?”

4. “Aren’t you worried you won’t be able to have kids?”

5. “Are you seeing anyone?”

6. “You should try online dating. My friend met their husband/wife that way.”

7. “They don’t deserve you.”

8. “You are such a catch.”

9. “Don’t worry you’ll find someone someday.”

10. “He’s just not ready for a serious commitment yet."

11. “One day when you’re married, you’ll wish you were single.”

12. “There are plenty of fish in the sea.”

13. “You’re just too picky.”

14. “Just don’t turn into some crazy cat lady.”

15. “She probably just lost your number.”

16. At a wedding: “You better get out there, they’re doing the bouquet toss.”

17. “You’re just too busy right now.”

18. “You have to love yourself before you can love someone else.”

19. In reference to your best friend: “Have you guys ever thought of dating?”

20. “I can’t wait to meet your future spouse, they are going to be amazing.”

21. “We’ll all be laughing about this someday.”

22. “You should let me set you up, I know the perfect person for you.”

23. “Don’t give up, it’ll happen.”

24. “You don’t need anyone.” DAMN RIGHT!

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I Love You, Son

After 21 years of marriage, my wife wanted me to take another woman out to dinner and a movie. She said, “I love you, but I know this other woman loves you and would love to spend some time with you.”

The other woman that my wife wanted me to visit was my MOTHER, who has been a widow for 19 years, but the demands of my work and my three children had made it possible to visit her only occasionally.



That night I called to invite her to go out for dinner and a movie. “What’s wrong, are you well?” she asked.

My mother is the type of woman who suspects that a late night call or a surprise invitation is a sign of bad news. “I thought that it would be pleasant to spend some time with you,” I responded. “Just the two of us.” She thought about it for a moment, and then said, “I would like that very much.”

That Friday after work, as I drove over to pick her up I was a bit nervous. When I arrived at her house, I noticed that she, too, seemed to be nervous about our date. She waited in the door with her coat on. She had curled her hair and was wearing the dress that she had worn to celebrate her last wedding anniversary. She smiled from a face that was as radiant as an angel’s. “I told my friends that I was going to go out with my son, and they were impressed, “she said, as she got into the car. “They can’t wait to hear about our meeting.”

We went to a restaurant that, although not elegant, was very nice and cozy. My mother took my arm as if she were the First Lady. After we sat down, I had to read the menu. Her eyes could only read large print. Half way through the entries, I lifted my eyes and saw Mom sitting there staring at me. A nostalgic smile was on her lips. “It was I who used to have to read the menu when you were small,” she said. “Then it’s time that you relax and let me return the favor,” I responded. During the dinner, we had an agreeable conversation – nothing extraordinary but catching up on recent events of each other’s life. We talked so much that we missed the movie. As we arrived at her house later, she said, “I’ll go out with you again, but only if you let me invite you.” I agreed.

“How was your dinner date?” asked my wife when I got home. “Very nice. Much more so than I could have imagined,” I answered.

A few days later, my mother died of a massive heart attack. It happened so suddenly that I didn’t have a chance to do anything for her. Some time later, I received an envelope with a copy of a restaurant receipt from the same place mother and I had dined. An attached note said: “I paid this bill in advance. I wasn’t sure that I could be there; but nevertheless, I paid for two plates – one for you and the other for your wife. You will never know what that night meant for me. I love you, son.”

At that moment, I understood the importance of saying in time: “I LOVE YOU” and to give our loved ones the time that they deserve. Nothing in life is more important than your family. Give them the time they deserve, because these things cannot be put off till “some other time.”

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